This morning was intensely gorgeous. I have a day of work, but no meetings, stretching ahead of me - a rarity these days - and so I let myself sleep in, just a little.
I made the kids lunches and then went for a jog in the sunshine and crunchy brown leaves. I slowly weaved my way through the limestone University, buildings and students - feeling the excitement of the long weekend ahead. I met my family in the park as they made their way to school and, after dropping the kids, I decided to take just a bit more time to head downtown with my husband for coffee and pumpkin pies.
Those pumpkin pies mark the beginning of the holiday season here in Canada - and Thanksgiving has always been one of my very favourite days.
The family and friends!
The stunning weather!
Much less pressure than Christmas!
My oldest daughter was born on a Thanksgiving Monday, which makes the whole weekend feel a little extra special for us.
But if I'm honest - I've been feeling a bit of dread the past few days.
We have a family of incredibly lovely humans but the diet mentality runs deeps (as it does in many families).
The topics of food, health, exercise, weight, calories, bodies, good, bad, right, wrong are common - especially when food is around....and it’s exhausting.
I just want to enjoy dinner, you know?
The whole thing is compounded by the fact that this is MY WORK.
I should be able to manage this easily! It should be a no-brainer!
But it's not. These conversations are complex and nuanced and I prefer to have them with people who are genuinely interested in changing their relationship with food and their bodies.
People who just want to enjoy dinner.
This is the question on my mind:
How can we enjoy Thanksgiving and Hallowe'en, and whatever other holidays you celebrate as December and the New Year approach, in a world full of people who are struggling with food, weight, and their bodies?
How can you enjoy these moments if YOU are still struggling with food, weight, and your body?
Here is what I have to offer to you:
1. You have me. If you need to feel supported, spend some time listening to my podcasts, re-reading newsletters, or Instagram captions. I don’t need to see eye-to-eye with everyone on everything, but when I’m struggling, knowing that there are people in the world who see things as I do, is always a comfort.
2. Let's collectively go into the weekend ready to embrace the mess - the desire to be in gratitude, to feel the joy and privilege that comes with having access to food and bodies that are alive and working reasonably well...and let's also expect and accept that there will be conversations about food and weight and health (and let's be honest, probably politics!) that you don't love. That you may even struggle with your own food choices or body. That you may or may not handle any of it the way you want.....
That "the mess" is all part of learning, growing, and being.
It doesn't need to be negative.
It can just be.
3. I want to share with you this poem, may it comfort you in uncomfortable moments.
Nothing Tastes As Good As Skinny Feels
Unless you count your grandmother's cake, hand mixed while she waits for the sound of your breath at the door. Or if you consider the taste of the sea, hands raised while you enter, salt at your lips.
Or maybe you've forgotten the taste of a lover, your mouth on his skin. I ask -
have you ever tasted the cool swill of
freedom? The consuming rush of a quiet, radical love?
Last thing - If this is the weekend you realize you're ready to work on your relationship with food and body, email me (email@example.com) and let me know. I've got you.
Have an amazing weekend.
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