Day three and you're still with me! Well done.
The next step is a BIG one.
A SCARRRRRRY one.
I've had many a woman cry when I suggest it.
But first, how was yesterday? Have you gotten better at rating your hunger? Have you started attending to it?
Not to worry if it was hard. That's normal. Ignoring biological needs is something most women are actually really good at. Changing those patterns will take time. Beyonce wasn't built in a day, my friends.
Day 3 - Make Peace with Food
AKA Legalizing Food
As in, allowing it.
You are going to pick the food you most avoid, are fearful of, out of control around, etc. and you are going to EAT THAT FOOD.
In an ideal world, you wouldn't just do it for a day or with just one food....you'd make a list of foods that pull you in with magnetic force and then you would slowly, systematically work your way through those foods one by one until they had NO MORE POWER OVER YOU.
In order to be able to listen to your body and respond to her needs, you need to neutralize food. As long as you have Twizzlers on some sort of sordid, bedazzled pedestal - when faced with the option between the two, the strawberry flavoured twist will always have more pull than the strawberry. We need to take the pull away.
Food is inanimate, FYI.
The only power it has is the power you give it.
Well, my little Chiquita banana, it's time to take the power back.
Here's how you do it:
- Decide on the food you are going to legalize. If you can't figure it out, make a list of all the foods that catch your attention over the course of a few days. Cross off all the foods you easily allow into your diet. CIRCLE the foods you are terrified of (ie do not allow). Pick one of the foods you circled.
- Go out and buy that food. Not just a little bite of it, buy a lot. Have it all around you, readily available.
- Eat the food as many times a day as you desire. Sit, take a few breaths, and eat as much of the food as you like. Chew it. Really taste it.
- Now think about it, just for a few minutes. How was it? Did it taste as good as you imagined? Did you eat enough of it? Too much? How did it feel in your body?
- Let it go. Move on. Do it again. This is all one big experiment, keep gathering data.
- Do the exercise outlined above. That's it!
I realize that for many women that exercise reads like the screenplay of Alfred Hitchcock's The Birds but remember - BIRDS ARE TERRIFYING!!!
Food shouldn't be.